Who’s idea was it to grow up anyway? Not mine! It’s funny how, as a child, I thought being a wife and a mom looked soooo glamorous. I also remember thinking that grading papers was going to be the best thing about becoming a teacher! Ha! Oh silly, naive child. The truth is, there are glamorous day and there are…days when I am a hot mess! MANY days where I am a hot mess. I can just hear my hubby in the background…You ARE hot baby! Ok, that’s not what I meant. C’mon, you know you’ve used the term “hot mess” before. Anyhoo, the reality is that life is a lot different than we thought it would be when we were kids. Right? Having kids, for example, has been the most exhausting, overwhelming, greatest joy of my life! Kids…what a huge responsibility. There comes a time in your parenthood, when you realize that you need to grow up and help create the best future for your family that you can. Maybe you had it figured out before you had kids. That’s awesome! I started having kids before I even thought about growing up. I was still in college. Crazy kid. My advice: skip college! There is something in the water on every college campus that makes you fall in love and want to get married. Or go to college when you’re older. LOL!
Recently my husband and I decided to hit our debt head-on. We took the Financial Peace course by Dave Ramsey a few years ago. Have you taken it? It’s really fantastic. I hate it. It really teaches great principles for getting and staying out of debt. I hate it. I love Dave Ramsey’s passion for helping people get out of debt. I really don’t like that guy. My friend calls him Damn Ramsey…snicker snicker. Apparently I have a love/hate relationship with the whole thing. Especially the principle, Live like no one else today so that you can live like no one else later. What does that even mean????? In essence it means to live financially wise today so that later in life, you aren’t scrambling for work/money when you should be retired. Then you can actually enjoy retirement! Sigh…but what if I work my butt off and then I die? Seriously…these are the things I think about! Have you done the whole debt snowball thing? Did you ever think this? Ok, I’ll stop complaining.
My point is, I don’t want to be an adult today. I don’t want to make tough decisions. I want to go spend all of my money on Six Flags. I just want to ride some roller coasters! Oh! I also want to eat the biggest ice cream sundae in the world without the sugar rush or effect on my pant size. I want to just be somewhere quiet and read. I want to make the food that I want to eat, when I want to eat it. I want to buy groceries with Monopoly money. I want my student loan debt to just disappear. Waa waa WAAAAAAAAA!
A couple of days ago, I was on my way to the chiropractor. I wanted coffee. I was trying to get out of the house quickly so I didn’t make coffee before leaving. I could just stop by Starbucks, right? No! We are tracking all of our expenses and doing that makes you much more aware of how much you really spend. I had a whole quarrel with myself about why I shouldn’t spend the money. My mature, adult self won. I would just wait until I got home for my coffee. Ugh…Here’s where it gets good! After my visit to the chiropractor, I walked over to Fry’s and bought a couple of grocery items that I needed. On the way out, I noticed that Starbucks (inside Fry’s) had put out a couple of big coffee containers along with the cream and sugar. They didn’t put out teeny tiny cups like you would get at Sprouts or Trader Joe’s. Oh no, they put out 8 oz. cups. Don’t laugh at me. An 8 oz cup of coffee that is good and free is amazing! They also put out real cream (not the icky powdered stuff) and sugar. Yes! Score! It was really good coffee too! I felt so blessed! Ha ha! It’s even better I had decided to be mature and then got rewarded for it! It may seem kind of silly, but it was really hard for me NOT to stop and buy coffee. It was one of those moments when I could just hear God saying, “I love you. Good job. Have some coffee.” He probably had a sweet, fatherly smile and I’m sure he patted my head. I was like a little kid being rewarded with a lollipop.
It’s also a good reminder for those of us trying to be adults, that it is even harder for our children to make mature decisions. How do we respond when our children make unwise decisions. Do we belittle them? Do we let them experience natural consequences. Let me note here that sometimes it’s better for us to give them consequences as the natural consequence might actually be dangerous. What about showing them grace for those unwise decisions and guiding them through it? How about rewarding them for some of the wise decisions they do make?
To finish up, I want to encourage you to be child like sometimes. Have fun! If we are always serious, then it makes those times when we really have to make tough decisions that much more difficult. Don’t you think? Go ride a roller coaster. Eat an ice cream cone. Do an adult night at the water park! Rent a bounce house just for adults. Those do exist, right? If they don’t, they should. Find ways to laugh and have fun. PLAY with your kids! Tickle fight! Pillow fight! Adventure! Adulting doesn’t have to be boring or all serious!
Please share your “adulting”moments and your “I’m a kid again!” moments! I’d love to get to know you more!