As I’m writing this, I just witnessed my child being chosen last for a basketball scrimmage. It’s not like he’s bad at basketball. The kid is really good! HE knows he’s good. His dream is to be in the NBA! But even if he wasn’t good, it doesn’t matter. It still hurts. The look on his face of embarrassment, disappointment, and hurt felt like a knife being plunged into my heart. My chest tightened. Luckily my son has a pretty good self-esteem. He bounces right back and puts his all into whatever he was doing. He doesn’t let it get him down for too long. But I was that child who dreaded P.E. I was ALWAYS chosen last, no matter what! I actually loved P.E. I just wasn’t one of the popular kids. I have never liked the idea of kids picking teams. Someone ALWAYS gets hurt because they feel left out time and time again! Have you been there? Have your kids been there? Boy does it hurt!
Do you have a child that gets picked on at school? Bullied? It seems like either the cases of bullying in our country have skyrocketed in the last decade, or we have just redefined what bullying actually is or it just isn’t being ignored anymore. In any case, bullying is no joke. Have you cried over how another child has treated your precious one(s)? Have you pleaded their case to a principal, teacher, another parent, etc? Have you brought your child to God while on your knees? There is probably nothing worse than seeing our children hurting.
On top of kids being picked on or chosen last for games, there is the influence of social media. Teenagers constantly checking to see if their latest post or picture has been liked and how many times it has been liked. What if no one likes their post? How does that make them feel? What if they don’t look as nice as others who post pictures of themselves. What if, what if, what if…it could go on forever, right? Aren’t there times you wish that you could protect your child from all of the hurt and pain in this world? I know that I have. Sometimes the hugs, kisses, cuddles, chocolate chip cookies just aren’t enough. The hurt still lingers in our little ones’ hearts. So what do we do about it?
First, pray. Pray with our kids and over our kids. God loves the ones He has entrusted us with. Don’t doubt that. Ask for wisdom to guide them and protection for them.
Second, instill God’s love for them in their hearts. God’s love is unconditional.
These verses are soooo good to share with them. They are also good for us when we need a reminder of how much God loves us!
“When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; And through the rivers, they shall not overflow you. When you walk through the fire, you shall not be burned, Nor shall the flame scorch you.” Romans 8:28
“Fear not, for I am with you; Be not dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, Yes, I will help you, I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.” Revelation 21:4
“…fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by your name; You are Mine. When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; And through the rivers, they shall not overflow you. When you walk through the fire, you shall not be burned, Nor shall the flame scorch you. For I am the Lord your God, The Holy One of Israel, your Savior;…” Psalm 46:1
“The Lord your God in your midst, The Mighty One, will save; He will rejoice over you with gladness, He will quiet you with His love, He will rejoice over you with singing.” John 16:33
How have you dealt with your children being hurt, disappointed, or embarrassed?